By Frank Lucasale 
It’s easy to say, “he’s nice” or “we vibe,” but that’s surface-level.
In 2025, a truly good man—a high-quality, emotionally safe, forward-thinking partner—shows up through consistent actions. Not just love-bombing or words.
He’s not just romantic. He’s emotionally intelligent, sexually respectful, financially aware, and emotionally available.
Here are the 7 habits that show you’re building with a man who’s not just good on paper — but good in life.
1. He Talks Openly (Not Avoidantly) About Sex, Consent & Pleasure
In 2025, this is basic maturity — not bonus points.
A good man doesn’t avoid sex conversations, nor does he push boundaries. He asks what you’re comfortable with. He checks in.
He doesn’t guilt you into sex, expect you to meet porn-level standards, or ignore your pleasure. He’s tuned in, emotionally and physically.
Example: He notices when you’re mentally stressed and says, “We don’t have to do anything tonight, I just want to be close to you.” That’s love, not pressure.
2. He Supports (Not Avoids) Difficult Conversations About Children, Abortion, and Long-Term Choices
You can say “I’m not sure if I want kids” or “I had an abortion years ago” and he doesn’t flinch.
He holds space for real-life conversations — no judgment, no shutdown. He sees partnership as a shared evolution, not a performance.
Example: When you say, “I don’t think I want to be a mom,” he says, “That’s something we should really talk about openly, and I respect where you’re coming from.”
3. He Doesn’t Flirt With Chaos — He Values Peace Over Drama
He’s not addicted to toxic patterns or testing your emotions.
He prefers direct communication, clears misunderstandings fast, and doesn’t weaponize silence. He shows you that calm love is not boring — it’s safe.
Example: When you’re upset, he doesn’t leave or escalate. He says, “Let’s take 10 minutes, then talk about it without yelling.”
4. He’s Financially Transparent and Growth-Oriented
He doesn’t have to be rich — but he’s honest about his money.
He budgets, plans, and talks about financial goals with you, not around you. Whether it’s saving for a home, building credit, or discussing who pays for what — he’s not defensive, he’s collaborative.
Example: He says, “Let’s review what we’re both spending monthly. Want to try splitting bills 70/30 while you build your business?”
5. He Understands Emotional Labor — and Shares It
He doesn’t expect you to be the only one checking in, planning dates, remembering anniversaries, or managing “how the relationship feels.”
He knows that mental and emotional work is real labor. So he contributes.
Example: You’ve had a rough week and instead of disappearing, he texts, “Want me to bring takeout and just sit with you tonight?”
6. He Includes You in His Vision of the Future — Without You Having to Ask
You don’t need to beg for clarity. A good man offers it.
He talks about “we” — not “me.” He includes you in life decisions. Whether it’s career relocation, family events, or health planning, he wants you in the loop.
Example: He interviews for a job in another city and says, “If I get it, I want to plan this with you — not leave you behind.”
7. He’s Not Just Emotionally Available — He’s Emotionally Practicing
He’s done the work. He knows his patterns. Maybe he’s been to therapy. Maybe not. But he’s self-aware enough to say, “I was wrong,” or “That triggered me.”
He doesn’t shut down or explode. He pauses, names his emotions, and works on them with you.
Example: After a fight, he comes back and says, “I was reactive earlier — I think I was feeling insecure about what you said.”
Final Reflection
This is 2025. We don’t need partners who just show up.
We need men who show depth, regulation, and growth.
If your man demonstrates most of these habits — you’re not in a “lucky” relationship. You’re in a healthy, intentional, mature one.
And that’s the new sexy.